We emanate greater compassion which extends to those around us – our partners, friends, colleagues and even strangers. Appreciating our own wholeness fosters truly seeing and embracing that same essential goodness in other people.
Why We Forget Our Innate Worth
The persistent “voice of the inner critic” often overrides our link to inherent value established in childhood. As we internalize externally imposed perfectionistic standards for happiness and self-worth over the years, self-judgment increases while self-compassion decreases. Gradually we habituate to the cutting self-talk endlessly dismissing or diminishing our talents, appearances, relationships and contributions rather than honoring our irrefutable wholeness.
Impacts on All Relationships
Losing touch with our own worthiness and lovability impacts how we relate to everyone around us. We tend to project our inner shame, self-criticism or anger outward. Intimate partners frequently disappoint us through the lens of distorted perception. We magnify friends’ flaws and shortcomings when we fail to appreciate our own. Judgments toward colleagues and coworkers sharpen. And we view complete strangers more as threats rather than fellow human beings when disconnected from self-love.
Restoring Self-Worth through Self-Affirmations
To shift from critical and cynical relating to more compassionate relating – affirming the innate goodness in others – we must reconnect to self-worth first before extending it outward. Through establishing a regular self-affirmation practice where we nurture our innermost being, we actively soothe our inner judge. In its place, we cultivate presence with ourselves. We rediscover forgotten truths of our inherent creativity, talents, purpose and right to take up space. We remember, as the saying goes, that we are enough.
The Ripple Effects of Healed Self-Perception
As our self-concept gradually evolves through consistent nurturing affirmations, the luminosity of our very energy shifts. We emanate increased self-acceptance outwards which touches others like ripples spreading across water. Romantic partners no longer seem like inevitably frustrating because we no longer unconsciously seek salvation in them. Colleagues seem less incompetent or malicious when viewed through eyes of empathy that were first turned inward. We fear crowds less out of quiet confidence that our worth cannot be diminished by strangers.
Becoming Beacons of Unconditional Worthiness
The more we affirm our own wholeness rather than buy into fear or lack-based scarcity paradigms, the more we organically magnetize others who are also seeking tools for self-healing on their journeys. Our embodied energy conveys
“You too deserve to treat yourself kindly”
thereby subtly elevating collective consciousness in spaces we occupy. Gradually, with our own inner light kindled brightly, we become gentle forces reminding others of their right to self-acceptance simply by moving through life with healed presence.
The consistent practice of building self-worth requires dedication, but pays exponential dividends by showering compassion beyond ourselves. We cease relating to others through a lens of judgment once the judgmental lens turned inward has been dissolved through diligent heart-work. We remember that only light can dispel darkness. In forgotten words of the philosopher Schopenhauer,
“Blessed are those who have arrived at their own self-worth for they shall heal the world.”