The Anatomy of Affirmations in Trauma Recovery
Dos:
– Individualization: Affirmations should be tailor-made. No off-the-rack affirmations can resonate with everyone’s trauma.
– Use Present Tense: This creates an immediate sense of reality.
Don’ts:
– Avoid Negatives: Using words like “not,” “won’t,” or “can’t” can produce the opposite of what you want.
– Steer Clear of Superlatives: Words like “always,” “every,” and “never” can feel disingenuous.
“I am in control of how I respond to others.”
Ah, the paradox of control. Trauma often makes us feel powerless, but by acknowledging control over reactions, we snatch back some of that power.
The Setting Matters
Dos:
– Integrate into Routine: Make it a part of daily life.
– Physical Reminders: Sticky notes or phone reminders can be helpful.
Don’ts:
– Forcing It: Don’t set an alarm at 4 a.m. to recite affirmations if you’re not a morning person.
“My healing is in progress, and that’s okay.”
Guess what? Your healing timeline isn’t a race. Feeling like you’re lagging? Well, it’s more of a meandering pathway than a straightforward road.
Authenticity Is Your Best Friend
Dos:
– Be Real: No use saying “I’m okay” if you’re not.
– Check in with Yourself: How do you feel after reciting the affirmation?
Don’ts:
– Lying to Yourself: If it doesn’t resonate, ditch it.
“I acknowledge my emotions and give them the space they deserve.”
Shoving emotions in a box? Not helpful. Let’s be real—trauma leaves emotional wounds, and acknowledging them is the first step towards healing.
You, The Scientist
Dos:
– Experiment: Try out different affirmations and note how they make you feel.
– Repetition is Fine: The more you use an affirmation, the more it will sink in.
Don’ts:
– Don’t Overanalyze: It can negate the simplicity and effectiveness of the affirmation.
“I am learning to accept myself each day.”
Because hey, trauma recovery is a process. Some days you’re the pupil, and some days you’re the teacher. Either way, you’re learning.
The Taboo Topics: When Affirmations Aren’t Enough
Dos:
– Professional Help: Sometimes affirmations need to be a part of a larger treatment plan.
– Consult with Therapist: They can help create affirmations that align with your treatment goals.
Don’ts:
– Using as a Sole Treatment: If symptoms persist, please seek professional help.
– Ignoring Red Flags: Don’t disregard changes in mood or increases in stress.
“I will seek the help I need to heal completely.”
Look, no shame in the therapy game. If you’re spinning your wheels, it may be time to call in the professionals.
Wrapping Up: The Flexibility of Affirmations
Dos:
– Adjust as You Go: You’re a dynamic being. Update your affirmations as you heal and grow.
– Kindness: Above all, be kind to yourself.
Don’ts:
– Being Hard on Yourself: No need to punish yourself if an affirmation isn’t working.
“I am deserving of peace, love, and the space to heal.”
Isn’t it liberating? Crafting your affirmations gives you the tools you need, handed down from you, to you.
To explore the science behind affirmations further, don’t miss this comprehensive article: Do Affirmations Actually Work? It’s All in the Brain.